At this point, you’re probably reading this because you’re having a cabin fever. You haven’t been out in weeks, haven’t talked to anyone outside of your immediate family and you just miss going out. But now, leaving the house with a newborn is making you nervous.
Here’s some tips to make leaving the house with a newborn manageable:
Think of where you’re going and how long you’re going to stay there
If you’re going to have your baby vaccinated and you already have an appointment, consider the traveling and waiting time to see the doctor, as well as the consultation time.
Consider those things also when you simply just need to go buy something quickly at the grocery store.
Remember that most babies usually drink milk every 2-3 hours so if you’re solely on formula, pack enough milk. Consider also the number of times you have to change your baby’s diaper at home and factor that in when you pack his/ her diaper bag.
Prepare the diaper bag
Pack as lightly and as efficiently as possible, especially if you’re going out alone with your newborn. If you want to know what to pack on your newborn’s diaper bag, click here.
Feed your newborn first
If you still have some time to spare, breastfeed or give formula milk to your baby first. So you won’t get too stressed when traveling takes too long and the baby starts fussing for his/ her milk.
Prepare their milk
This is for formula fed babies. If you don’t have the time to feed them but you know more or less on the way, they’d get hungry soon, prepare their milk before leaving the house. That way, you don’t need to look for a place to prepare the formula milk and you can just easily whip it out and give it to your baby.
Consider your traveling arrangements
Is it near, can you walk there or do you have to take the bus? Or would you prefer a taxi? Is anyone coming with you – your husband, in-laws, relatives, friends?
If the place you’re going to is a walking distance, consider bringing an umbrella, just in case it rains or if the weather is too hot.
If you want to put your baby in the baby carrier, make sure you’re already comfortable with it while walking on the way to your destination.
If you’re going to put your baby in the stroller, make sure that it will be easy for you to push a stroller on the way there, as sometimes, some places are not stroller-friendly and there might be a lot of stairs and not a lot of ramp for you to push the stroller on.
If you’re going alone by bus, make sure that you can easily reach for your bus card while carrying both your baby and your diaper bag.
If you’re going by taxi, remember to tell the driver to drive carefully and slowly. Keep reminding them that every 10 minutes if you have to, especially if they’re going a bit fast.
And most importantly, remember to do the next tip.
Practice putting your baby in the baby carrier
Yes, this might seem insane to you at the moment and I can’t speak to all the Moms out there but I was freaking terrified to put mine on her baby carrier, even if it was meant for a newborn and toddler.
I remember my in-laws standing around me nervously, while my husband helped with the baby and her baby carrier. I was so scared to the point that I only learned how to use the baby carrier when my baby was more than 2 months old.
But don’t worry you’ll be fine, just as long as you read the instructions carefully and watch videos on how to put your baby properly in his/ her baby carrier.
A baby carrier is a lifesaver and would definitely make traveling easier for you so I suggest you get comfortable with it quickly.
Look first for the diaper changing station, pronto
Wherever you go, always, ALWAYS, look if they have a diaper changing station first. So you’ll know where to run to, just in case you have a screaming baby that needs some diaper changing. I found this ultimate list of nursing rooms in singapore.
Visualize a life without a diaper changing station
Sometimes, the diaper changing station might be closed for cleaning or it might be overcrowded or it just looks completely disgusting or lacking in the essentials like a diaper changing table (ironic but I saw more than one place that’s like that).
For times like these, you will need to find a place clean enough for you to breastfeed and to make formula milk AND private enough to change your baby’s diaper.
It will be easier if you can put your baby in a stroller, so you can change their diapers there. For making milk, just go someplace with a table or any surface, clean it a bit, put some tissues or towel on it then place your milk bottle and other paraphernalia on it.
If you only have your baby carrier, changing diapers might be tricky but still manageable. Find a surface that is solid and clean enough then clean that again with some antibacterial wipes. Then place a towel then your baby’s traveling diaper changing mat on it. Then remove your baby from the baby carrier and slowly place her/him on the changing mat and you’re good to go.
I suggest to not do this in a public area where people are eating cause that would be disgusting but find some place where there’s less traffic.
Making the milk is the same, just keep your baby in their baby carrier while looking for a table then clean that table, put some tissue or towels, place your milk paraphernalias then get your baby.
Practice peeing or pooping while wearing a baby carrier or wearing your baby on a carrier
If you’re going to the doctor alone, then this is a must.
It seems laughable but trust me, the first time it happened to me, I was freaking panicking. I had to poop so hard but I had no one with me to hold my baby.
At that point, I kinda wished someone invented a bag to place in newborns so moms can just hang them on the hook inside the toilet cubicles but I can feel the poop peeking out of my ass a bit so I had no choice but to just do it.
So I did. And I survived. And here I am, writing this, remembering that disgusting yet hilarious time where I pooped in front of my baby for the very first time.
If you’re not comfortable with a baby carrier then maybe a portable car seat will do but this is just me, I really don’t find it convenient, especially if you’re traveling alone with your baby.
Imagine, if that car seat has its own stroller, you’d need to take the taxi everytime you want to go out alone with your baby as lugging it around with your baby and the diaper bag is super inconvenient.
If you forget something, just take a deep breath and say “fuck it”
I used to panic before when I forgot to bring some extra diaper or antibacterial wipes. Then I’d get so stressed then my baby would feel my stress and she will start getting fussy, making me more stressed. Then I eventually learned to let things go, because well, I can’t really do anything about it.
Most of the things that you’ll be doing will be, for some people, gross and for you, probably embarrassing,especially when you’ve never done them before.
And you will feel embarrassed, especially when you’re changing a poop diaper in public and there are people giving you dagger looks for how smelly and disgusting your kid’s diaper is or worse, how noisy your crying baby is. Some will find it offensive to breastfeed in public, especially if you don’t use any cover.
But ignore them. Tune them the fuck out. Think only of your baby and his or her welfare. That’s the only thing that matters, not anyone’s opinion or comments or criticisms about you. Learn to ignore and to have a thicker skin.
Leaving the house with newborn for the first time can be overwhelming. And trust me, it will be and that’s normal.
Almost every new mom feels anxious taking their small, fragile newborn out. But you’ll eventually get the hang of it.
Just get ready your baby’s diaper bag, visualize where you’re going, what you need to do, give yourself a little pep talk, take a deep breath and finally open that door and go out. And don’t forget these moments with your little one, you can do this!
When are you planning to take out your newborn? Or have you already taken him/ her out? What was it like? Share your experience by commenting below.